Adult Formation


Marriage Preparation (Couples' Group)   Retreat  

Reconciliation   RCIA   Christian Meditation


In addition to the categories which you can reach from the above links there will occasionally be Adult Formation sessions held after Mass when a visitor will come to provide a workshop or presentation on a topic of interest. There is no fixed timetable for these occasions which will always be advertised in the bulletin. 


Marriage Preparation (Couples' Group)

Intended for couples who have decided to get married in the Catholic Church.
There are added values to getting married in the Church: the Church celebrates marriage as a covenant rather than a contract, enriches concepts of love, growing in love, feeling blessed, a sense of belonging, and the continuous growth of the whole person, both as an individual and as a part of the couple.
Marriage preparation should ensure that the couple do not view the wedding ceremony as the end of the road, but instead embark upon marriage as a lifelong calling based on a firm and realistic decision to face all trials and difficult moments together.
“The preparation is centered around the marriage bond, assisting couples not only to deepen their love but also to overcome problems and difficulties. This involves not only helping them to (understand and) accept the Church’s teaching and to have recourse to her valuable resources, but also offering practical programs, sound advice, proven strategies and psychological guidance.” (Amoris Laetitia, par.211)
HOW ? 
A programme of four sessions for a fixed group of participants with the following content:
Session 1   -introduction of all participants (on the basis of a questionnaire sent prior to first session)
                   -the Church’s teaching on marriage
Session 2   -potluck dinner (prepared by participants) with TED talk by pope Francis
                   -“becoming the best version of yourself and help the other to do the same”
Session 3   -“seven levels of intimacy” and “getting to know your partner better” 
Session 4   -preparation for the sacrament and your individual vows
                   -graduation moment 
There are two programs planned for the year 2018/2019.
The first starts on the 20th of September 2018; the other nights are on the 18th of October, the 15th of November, and the last night is on the 13th of December. 
The second starts on the 17th of January 2019; the other nights are on the 21st of February, the 21st of March and the last night is on the 11th of April.

The sessions will take place in the atrium or bar of the COS Parish Centre. Entrance is at Helenastraat 8, The Hague. Coffee and tea will be provided. The sessions start at 20.00 and close between 21.30-22.00. All the second sessions start with a potluck dinner at 18.30.
The marriage preparation team consists of Fr Sjaak de Boer, Irene and Guillermo Beuchat, and Ursula and Jan de Jong.
Every participating couple pays €50 for a programme of four sessions. The money will be used to cover the costs and to contribute to one of the many charity projects of the COS parish. The money should be paid prior to start of the programme. The account number of the COS parish is NL34 ABNA 0599 346 264; please add “marriage preparation” and your names when you transfer the money.
If you are interested in attending a marriage preparation course at COS, please contact the parish office via email at with all your marriage details.

For an overview of the 1st session's content: SessionI.


Once a year we arrange a 3 day Retreat for adults.


There is an opportunity to have Reconciliation every Sunday before the evening Mass. Fr Sjaak is available from 16.30-17.00. It is also possible to make a private appointment by contacting the Parish Office. During both Advent and Lent we hold an evening communal Reconciliation Service. 



RCIA stands for the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults. 
This course is for people who are interested in finding out about the Catholic faith or for those adults who have been Baptised but have not yet received First Communion or Confirmation. Also, people who have not attended church for a long time, yet feel they would like to be part of our community once more, are welcome. Informal sessions are held on Monday evenings in the Pastoral Centre. Contact Paul Falke via the office for information or with queries regarding other ways of renewing your faith. The courses run from early September until Easter. 

Christian Meditation

Meditation is not what you think: it seeks God in the silence and stillness beyond word and thought.

Meditation is the art of paying attention, a simple practice and a universal gift, found at the heart of all great traditions. Christian Meditation is based on the guidelines of Fr. Laurence Freeman OSB, and originates from the Benedictine spirituality and the monastic wisdom of the Desert Fathers. The journey of meditation is like an inner pilgrimage. It is a simple method to learn, using a prayer word (a mantra), and it is also called the prayer of the heart or contemplative prayer. It can be practised by anyone from wherever you are on your life’s journey.

The meditation group meets on Wednesday evening at 19h30 for 1 hour. The one hour meeting includes quiet music, a short taped talk on meditation, 20-25 minutes of silent meditation, followed by a question period. Newcomers are welcome to the group. If you would like to join, please contact Odile van der Hoff. For more information on The World Community for Christian Meditation, please visit the website.